Skipping a "Heart Beat"

Remember a moment when you hardly could breathe,

Your heart sounded to pause and you became mum,

You could think of nothing but just that one pain,

Amusing it is, the giver doesn’t even realize how it feels.

You want to share, you want to shout it out,

But you are scared of the world and the fear of being mediated,

Everyone around you seems to be noticing you,

You feel like the biggest loser as you yourself gave path to it.

I feel exactly the same like you my dear friend,

I have two paths, either to forget it or to keep it forever,

Either ways I know I am in no way winning,

As this game was a trap which was made for me to lose.

People say it’s the supernatural spirit who makes it all happen.

My question to that so called soul is- Are you skipping your heartbeat?

I remember my grandma telling that God always does well,

If that’s how it is then who is this who is making all this happen.

I am asked to move on, I am given lot of suggestions,

Like it’s nothing new and that everyone undergoes this,

Then why is it that everyone except me seems happy and smiling

And I am the only one undergoing this inner agony.

I know this is not the first time but its hurts deeper,

Than even the last time and I can’t remember how ever,

I came out of it as it feels this is the end,

My world seems having me lost around so many strangers.

Yes I do pretend, I do act,

I perform every day to show that fake smile,

When within I am dying each second with each memory,

Just wishing for some ray of hope for my heart to beat.

As the deer panteth for the water....

Life takes us to so many turns and twists, giving surprises each moment, especially when its truly unpredictable. With our busy schedules, timely deadlines, targets, fake friends and colleagues, you always struggle to search for a 'moment of joy'. A moment just by yourself, a moment of love, and a moment of peace. Internally we reflect so much most of the times, even question ourselves that we unknowingly we immensely fall into the prey of our thoughts than our beliefs. 

So what is it that we want to attain in our life? If you say money, you indeed mean you haven't understood the joy of living without having a single penny. A man begging at a street is far more at peace than a man riding a BMW. If not be true, why is it that a rich man is the biggest beggar in-front of the almighty? Not to leave, the fabrication and contemplation the rich man goes through could never be understood unless experienced. So if you say, its fame, you haven't had the chance of being a common man and just surrendering yourself to the hands of God with peace. Remember, that person at the railway station who is sleeping without any future thoughts than one who is affected by everyone around him except himself. Recall the last time when you wanted to sleep at office, or run away from a relationship and just stopped because of being scared to face the society. Don't you think you are more trapped than anyone else? And if you say, success, you surely haven't understood the fun in being lost. The joy in figuring out what new you could try than following the exact same code of life.

The reality is that we fail to understand all what one wants is not anything more worthy than a 'moment of joy' and if you recall all the moments of joy you had, it makes you realize, it cannot be given by anyone or to anyone but only be shared by everyone. Sorrows would keep entering the chapter of your life and exiting as soon as you another one is in queue but if you could understand and appreciate one joy you received, life would be indeed worth rejoicing.

Have a peaceful and a joyful life!

Motivation: As the deer panteth for the water,
So my soul longeth after thee,
You alone are my heart's desire,
And I long to worship thee. 
(Christian Hymn)

Exploring Life? (Inspired by the movie 'Highway') !

Let me start this write up with a small story I witnessed recently. This really made me think on how I should take life and regret upon on the steps I should have not taken. The burst of emotions in the story Highway made me think, introspect and re-evaluate on how I lived for all these years as a child, teenager, and then as a growing adult.

This story is about a girl, who is brought up in a very civilized manner in one of those rich dream society bungalows, which many of the girls of her age dream off. If money was something which we all crave for, it was something which she had in abundance. She had a family too which supposedly believed were protecting her in all ways. She was taught to be secure from the men outside but was never given instructions of how to handle sexual abuse at HOME. She was definitely not normal as any normal girl would be scared, panicky, if she was kidnapped. But unlikely, she was quite happy, felt free, and was excited to breathe without any constraints. She enjoyed the fresh air, shouted when she wanted to, ate what normal people ate, dressed how a street girl would, and enjoyed every piece of moment with the kidnapper. I don’t think she was in love only with the kidnapper but she was in majorly with the freedom she was restrained off for all the years.

Now let’s recall the time when we could actually do what we wanted to, above all odds and above all ways which we are supposed to follow. Truthfully, Life has not been unfair to us, though we ourselves have deprived ourselves of the positive things in life. We are in this chase of following others like an ape would follow the other or a parrot would repeat one’s words. Scientists say humans are blessed with this impeccable system of a brain which does ‘planning’, but I believe ‘planning’ is the worst thing we could do to harm our system. “The more we plan, the harder we trouble ourselves, the worse we victimize our humanity”.

This article is not for those who have recognized their potential but for those who still believe they are not special. If you were not special, you could have had a clone of yours. Forget the fact of being similar, the almighty created even two twins in the most similar but yet so different manner. 

Let this article inspire you to cut off the chains, revive your life, break the inhibitions and fly off to win the sky. When you believe you have nothing on earth, look up to the sky because 'winning the earth might be easy but winning the sky could make you free'. 

My Interaction Referring To My Reflection

I wonder why I do not like discussing about myself. I wonder why I remain happy always. I also wonder what would happen if I actually depict the true reflection of what I feel and desire. 

Life has not been a blessing for me. And the same goes for each and every human. People say you need to be frank/open but isn’t that what I intend to do too? If not with this attitude, I would have either killed myself by trying something out of the way people do and then be the headlines for many of them to sympathize.

Most of the times, I don’t even understand the reason of my existence. I don’t understand why I was even born. Considering the super natural power ‘God’ and worshipping, it solves tensions of people most of the times. But is that the only solution of fighting with it? I feel that is like actually finding a third party to share my views. For me, the solution is always within. Had it not been this way, I would have been called a thinker, or may be a psycho.

The push to write this article was the thought, which laid me back when I was, questioned why I was trying to show that I am happy. If not this way and if to brand myself what my real self was, precisely I would be considered a chronic patient of depression or suppression. We all believe friends are there to share your difficulties. But the actual reality is that most of us, like to hear happy news. Most of us like to be with people who generate positivity than negativity. In this case, is it wrong to be one among them? Recall the time, when one of your friend suffered a back log and cried infront of you and within your heart you said, you deserved it as you didn’t give me your pen :P also, when the time your friend got dumped up, you want to say that you deserved it for the air you showed when you were committed. :D

I really can’t even imagine, if we could actually be what we want to be. Like shout when I want to, giving a shit to the surrounding around me; or cry when I want to and caring a damn of who would notice me or my makeup getting scattered. :P

Above all this, I believe I am best the way I am. As I have been created in the unique manner, with the unique thinking mentality, with the unique mix of emotions. Let me for the time being, be contended with what I have and with what I intend to have. Life is too long and the time when I think I have no better work, I would surely ponder upon if I could change and become a reflection of my real self!.  

To be Continued...

Is Internet a cause to Mental Disorder?

Internet has been the greatest gift to all those, who love information to be available, at the blink of an eye. Gone are the days when, a student couldn’t afford to miss any class, as there was no other mode of gaining knowledge other than going to school. Today, every bit of information is available online and can be accessed anywhere, at any time, and from any machine. People are becoming more and more alert of second to second happenings and thus are aware of their rights and how to justify them.

Where one side we see the growth of technical and conceptual skills, why is that people blame that internet is harming human skills? A survey conducted by McAfee found that on an average an Indian teen spends 86% of their time daily, on Facebook followed by 54%, on Twitter. The survey also stated that parent’s perception and the online reality, has high level of discrepancy. Due to children becoming more technology savvy than parents, keeping a track of what all activities children do, becomes difficult for parents. In olden times, free time was utilized to socialize, make real time relationships and discuss face to face, no matter how worse the problem was. Today, people have no time for any of these, as they believe in online dating, online marketing, and online chatting; precisely anything that includes prefix “online”. Undoubtedly, it has led to many new business ventures, has eliminated digital divide and has made the world a smaller place to live. But is that all what we need? A great saying says it all; “Man is a social animal”. If we stop acting the way we are intended to, we go against the nature. Every time we have gone against it, we have suffered the consequences too. Unfortunately may be therefore, every 40 minutes, a crime linked to Facebook, is reported to police. Sad isn’t it? Not only this, according to a paper presented at the 119th Annual Convention of the American Psychological Association (APA), pre-teens and teenagers who use technology, like the Internet and video games, on a habitual basis will have more stomach aches, sleeping problems, anxiety and depression. Research also found that, Teens who use Facebook continuously may show narcissistic tendencies and young adults show more signs of other psychological disorders, including antisocial behaviors, mania and aggressive tendencies.

Through over-use of internet we tend to live in a “virtual” reality, which at times is far from the actual “reality”. Sending an emoticon of a smiling face, through chat is easy but how many of us actually smile is a question. As artists say, beauty lies in the eyes of beholder; it is up to the user to make this technology a boon or a bane for him. It is easy to become dependent but difficult to resist the dependency. Let us no more become slaves to anything not even to our desires.    

RAIN: THE DROPLETS OF HAPPINESS

You are so adamant, yet not so anticipated,

You leave us wet with unfelt emotions led,

Every droplet you send,

Make the land your best friend.

I feel short of words to define your beauty,

No human can ever understand your creativity,

You decide when to come and when to go,

When to be silent or when to roar.

You are my mother nature’s most expensive gift,

Sometimes you turn me happy or sadden me a bit,

I thank everyone but could never say it to you,

Trust me our life is sticking like with glue.

Rain rain don’t go ever again,

Your every drop is a blessing and relieves my pain,

Remove us from miseries and our sorrows,

Shove me to move like river that never stops.






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Management: A Futuristic Vision.

As quoted by Peter Drucker: "Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things". In today’s era, where the world is connected and no man tends to remain aloof from this network, a manager cannot afford to merely do what he is supposed to, in fact the difference is, where he performs an extra effort, in generating the performance more than what is desired from him, by motivating his employees as a leader.

The management is not limited to the art of managing the resources, but has extended its wings to fight its battle consistently to maintain its position. Gone are the days when companies could maintain their strategies to remain inimitable as they were the only ones who thought differently. Today, every moment, companies are trying to implement some “out of the box” strategy to attract new customers and retain existing ones and hence increase their profit margins as compared to their competitors. As followed by HCL Technologies: “Employees first and Customers second” is the new trend followed by most of the companies, especially the ones in service industries. Today, a manager needs to focus on the consistent satisfaction of employees and should devise new plans, in order to foster commitment during the metamorphosis process of an employee’s life within an organisation. Recruiting competent employees with the required KSA (Knowledge, Skills, and Abilities) is the first step towards it. All the functions irrespective of the specialization of a manager, requires a manager to himself be motivated and then in turn pass on the “hat” (Motivation) to his followers.

In order to attain competitive advantage, firstly, companies need to adopt the art of anticipation. Individually, each one of us possesses this art and consciously or sub-consciously, we do indulge in such practice in our day to day life, but in an organisation, where there are people with different needs, motivation levels, principles and values, integration becomes challenging. Anticipation, according to me, is the best tool by which success can unquestionably be attained. The only fact covering this term is to be both positive as well as negative, as we can control our internal factors (like our resources, manpower etc.) but external factors do remain outside our scope. Secondly, while anticipating one needs to be hungry too. Hunger about Information is the key which needs to be followed in the path, with keeping our senses always in incoming mode so that no information (whether required or not) passes by, without touching our brain. Thirdly, as followed by many leading companies like HCL Technologies, Infosys, TCS, companies need to be value-driven. No matter what is the kind of work, an organisation needs to be aware about its values as a whole and values of each employee too. Fourthly, each employee needs to be allowed to express his/her opinion, irrespective of his position in the company. This would increase the flow of new ideas, which might lead to the modification of an existing product/service or innovation of one. Fifthly, a manager should be more considerate to his organisation than to himself. His relationship (according to me) with an organisation is like that of a husband and wife. Though, problems might happen, the relationship would be stronger when there is transparency, openness, understanding, commitment and focus on one goal: “Prosperity”. Sixthly, too many goals hamper ones brain. Hence, focused approach is required, so that a problem can be handled in depth and the cancerous issue can be cut as and when it occurs.

To conclude, the decision of, the future of management lies not only with the leader, but with each entity connected to the organisation, beginning from key stakeholders to the society with which it is interlinked. Thereby, if it needs to succeed, it needs to consistently rethink what was the reason of its existence and work towards the attainment of it, else they would remain as mere plans, as Peter Drucker said, “Plans are only good intentions unless they immediately degenerate into hard work”.

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QUESTIONS OF MY LIFE

I remember the day I was most blissful. To natter about the event, I find no verbal skills. My knowledge, my information was at zilch level. But my happiness and my enthusiasm were at peak. I wonder why I was born if I had to struggle so much. With leaps and bounds life showed me different chapters. My eyes still widen to think and visualize how I passed, through various steps of my life. I wasn’t a programmer, neither was a researcher. But even then i could move, swiftly or not, it’s not me who would decide. I am one moment happy, the other moment sad. Why is that, i still couldn’t figure out. I studied various subjects. Mathematics taught me how to play with numbers. Marketing taught me the art of selling. Human resource management taught me to judge others. But none of them taught me how to know myself. I have friends when i need. I have wonderful people besides me to give me the shoulders when I cry. But why am i not satisfied? Is that every human live with this discontentment? Or is it only me who is the Martian out here? Life gave me various lessons but even now I feel I have a lesson to learn. If I had none, I had no questions. But if I have questions I need answers. I don’t feel tired, neither am I giving up. I know I carry potential to make a circle a square. If it was not assumed that the earth isn’t round but flat, you and I would never have removed our tails. We used stones as weapons, and then came swords and pistols. We could find one to kill others but we still lack how to kill one. My dear friends, I don’t mean suicide neither I consider majority of us that courageous to think and do one. But I mean killing of various instincts and motives which drag us to do the superfluous activities and then later brings us to a repenting phase. To my notice, if I was to say something beyond, I would prefer to be mum as I myself feel a dupe to this feeling. The journey to be precise has actually taught me nothing, as I feel my life has not even touched a drop in the ocean of life.




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